First off, I can't even begin to write the words "first date" without thinking of one of my fave Blink-182 songs (it's called "First Date" if you didn't know). So now that it's stuck in my head I can begin to talk about the most awkward/fun/interesting days in anyones love life; your first date.
My friend Kristina is going on her first date with another friend of ours tomorrow and it just got me thinking of the very first date I went on with Peter, my current boyfriend. Peter and I had been in that "talking" stage for a few weeks and tbh, I wasn't keen on the idea of dating him. He asked me to be his girlfriend and I decided to give it a shot. Not out of pity but, because he was a great guy and we really enjoyed each other's company. We hadn't even gone on the date he asked me on a few days before hand (I guess you could say we did things a little backwards). There was no denying that we had the potential to be more than friends so I said hey, why not.
Before he had asked me to be his girlfriend, Peter asked me out on a date (he even got down on one knee it was so cute). When it came time for the date I was hardly even nervous; no butterflies, no crazy thoughts or worries, I just went about it casually. However, I did notice that I was subconsciously trying to impress him. I did my hair and makeup as any girl would for a first date. I even broke out my fave pair of Steve Madden heels. There's no harm in trying to dress to impress, especially on a date.
First dates can either make or break a relationship. I went in with the attitude that if it's good then this could work out, if it doesn't then whatever we don't have to move forward. That night, Peter picked me up, we went to his favorite Thai restaurant in Queens, and ate some of the best food I've ever eaten. He even took care of the bill which was so nice considering the prices. Besides all that, there was something about this first date that would change our lives.
Peter looked extra handsome that night. He had his hair slicked back, nice button down and his signature scent cologne. His smile and those big blue eyes, ugh his eyes, sometimes I think that his eyes are the sole reason I fell for him. To this day I find myself staring at them without even saying a word. His mannerisms were so polite. He treated me like he really wanted me. I had never seen him go out of his way to impress someone before, though we had only known each other a few months. It just wasn't a side I was used to seeing. We laughed over dinner, had long talks on the car ride and he held my hand for the first time as we walked the streets of Queens. He made my heart flutter the entire time (sorry I had to be cheesy). We clicked from that point forward and it was just so effortless. I didn't want the date to end, we were having so much fun and I found myself thinking throughout the night that this could really work. I guess you can say, our first date made our relationship.
I will never forget our first date because it was the first time that made me feel anything romantic towards him. It made me sure that I made the right decision about dating him. Not only that but, it was the most pivotal moment in our relationship. If we didn't have that, I don't know if we would've made it past that first week. It just made sense. We were already good friends but, when we got romantic it was natural as well. Since our first date, Peter has been my best friend and that's something I'm sure will carry on even if we do break up. We get each other and I'm myself completely 100% with him and that is the most amazing feeling. That fact that I could be that way from day one with him was even better. Who would've known that just by going on one date, I would've started a relationship with the man I love so dearly.
Now that I've listened to this "First Date" song about 8 times while writing this, I think it's time to move on with my day as I'm currently packing for Florida. I just couldn't help but see the need to reflect on such an important day in my life. Seeing my two friends come together for their first date had me really thinking about how one first date could change two people forever, even if their relationship doesn't last forever. With that I wish Kristina good luck on her first date and that it works out for them as it worked out for me and Peter.
What are some of your favorite first date stories? Did they work out or were some just completely awful? You can either comment below or if you'd like you can email me at samanthajo0220@yahoo.com. I love hearing your stories!
-- Samantha Jo xo
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